An expectant mum who wants to name her son in line with family tradition has been slammed by her husband's family who say it's 'abuse'.

The couple found out they are having a baby boy, due in August, and he will be their first child and the first grandchild on the mum's side of the family.

She says that what should be a happy and exciting time has instead sparked a huge fight which is 'tearing the family apart' - all over a name.

A year ago, she asked her husband if they could use a name which has been given to the firstborn son on her side of the family since the 1800s, which she said he agreed to.

But now they are months away from the arrival of their little boy, he's gone back on his word, leaving his wife 'crushed because this is so important to my entire family'.

The name has sparked a huge fight between the two families (stock image)

She said: "I'm well aware it's a stigmatized name today, so that's why I have agreed to using a short form.

"The name is Gaylord. I get it, trust me, I know most people hate it. That is why I've been able to discuss with my parents and grandparents that he will go by Gail in daily life so that he doesn't have to deal with bullies.

"They really didn't like the idea, but I wore them down and they have agreed and don't seem too offended by this.

"They see the backlash over the name today as a fad that will eventually disappear, and I agree seeing how accepting each generation tends to become. When society stops being so immature about it, he can start using the full name."

Explaining to her husband that their son would be named Gaylord on the birth certificate but go by Gail, he has now said he assumed she was joking and had never agreed to using either name.

Many people advised her to pick another name so her son wouldn't be teased (stock image)

She questioned why he thought she was joking when he has met her father and grandfather, and it's caused friction between the pair as he won't discuss it as an option.

Her husband told his family of the name choice and they are now 'hounding' her, saying it would be 'abusive' - and has even led to a screaming match between the grandparents on the phone.

"My in-laws are telling me that even Gail isn't an acceptable boy's name, and that I need to 'get with the times' and choose something more appropriate," she continued.

"They gave me a list of approved names like I'm a child, which is incredibly offensive to me. They have no right to name my own baby for me.

"I don't think my husband would have such an issue if it wasn't for his family sticking their nose where it doesn't belong, since he didn't have a problem with it a year ago. What happened to respecting our elders and traditions?

"His family doesn't have any naming traditions, so it should fall to my family that does. How could I be expected to break a centuries old family tradition?

"I can't get past this, and neither can my in-laws."

Asking Reddit for advice on the best way to repair the situation, one replied: "I work with elementary age children and this is a terrible idea. I’m sorry, but no. Definitely do not name your child Gaylord in any form or fashion."

Another said: "Some traditions reach the point where they are no longer suitable for modern times. This is 100% that time. Pick another name."

A third suggested: "You both are letting family into a decision that is really between you and your husband. I think you should talk this out with your husband, and leave both sets of in-laws out of the discussion.

"You should both have an equal say in naming your child, and don’t be dismissive of one another."